Need help

Had my appointment with the midwife today. She's told me that my abdominal muscles have split. Because I'm doing too much, lifting, carrying etc. Yeah... like I've got someone else to help me do all that!!! I told hubby and he is paranoid now that I am doing much, but I said to him, what else can I do if there is no one else around! Sometimes I wonder, he seems to think I can just call on people for a hand and they'll be able to drop everything. In my mind I get annoyed with him for being away, but I know I shouldn't because it's not his fault and if he could he would be back at home. I wonder if subconciously I'm trying to do too much, so that I can give him an excuse to try and get home? I would so love him to come home, but I would just feel like I've failed and I'm being pathetic.